Why Listen To Us?

I love hearing from others who have been married for a few or more years than Kelly and I have been. Now there aren't many who have been married as long as us who are still as in love today (if not more so) as they were on the day they were married... For one, that's a MAJOR discouragement... For two, that makes the ones who are happily married that much more important to listen to... especially when they don't have that 'perfect life' facade going on. You know that 'We're so perfect, we make you wanna puke' kinda vibe?

Now, we have gone to marriage seminars like Love and Respect, and we all know that one couple at church or at work who have the appearance of having the perfect marriage and the perfect kids and the perfect house and cars and money flow and sex life and so on and so forth and just never seem to have any problems. These are the kind of people who make lots and lots of money and then tell the rest of us how to have a perfect marriage just like them... and a lot of times they are making money from telling you that they are perfect and you're not and to be more like them...

Kelly and I are by far not the 'perfect' image of a couple... We live paycheck to pay check most of the time and have seemingly more than our fair share of difficulties, what with finances, our parents, friends, sex, parenting prep, work, house work, car problems, not to mention trying to plan for the future (as if such a thing were possible... sounds like a blog post for another one of my blogs...). Point is we do have to live life just like everyone else, yet we are still happy with each other more often than not, and when we aren't, we still take joy in each other.

That is where the secrets lay to having a good relationship with your spouse... How to take joy in your spouse. And in these blog posts, I hope you will learn how to have a great marriage in spite of all the other junk going on in your life.